Christian Counseling With Marital Therapists Lisa Brower And Mike Wright

A new and revised edition of the ultimate self-help book on divorce prevention and Fighting for Your Marriage, Fighting for Your Marriage is now sold alone, 150K copies! Since it was first released in 1994, Fighting for Your Marriage was the bestselling self-help book in its niche. Now, for the first time, it has been completely revised and made available in an online format. With a new foreword by David Brower, this newest edition of Fight For Your Marriage provides even more insight and guidance than ever before.

This third edition of Fighting for Your Marriage, focuses on communication skills as a critical tool in overcoming the conflicts that often arise in a marriage. Many husbands and wives believe that they should merely "get along" and be civil to each other - with no effort to resolve any underlying problems. The truth is, there are underlying problems. However, a fundamental truth of communication - understood and practiced correctly - can go a long way to resolving even the most serious conflicts. And, with just a little practice, this basic truth will become a natural part of your everyday communication with your spouse.

Fighting for Your Marriage, like all of Brower's other books, focuses on helping couples effectively communicate, as well as helping them to develop healthy relationships. When you read this book, you will quickly learn how to "read" body language, tone, and emotion to determine what your partner's intentions are - and then, understanding their thoughts and feelings will help you develop the tools necessary to respond appropriately. In particular, the sections on communicating during conflict and on fighting are extremely helpful.

The third section of this valuable book, "Communication Strategies for Couples," focuses on communication strategies that actually work. Several well-known researchers and counselors have confirmed that the best way to overcome conflict and preserve marriages is to communicate effectively. In fact, couples who engage in open dialogue regarding their conflicts often find themselves much happier and more satisfied in their relationships than couples who do not. According to these experts, the key is to avoid fighting or talking about conflict "in the heat of battle." Instead, couples should talk about these issues at a normal, relaxed pace - and then take the time to analyze their various options.

Throughout the remainder of The Book of Marriage, Brower offers practical suggestions for couples struggling to create a healthy relationship. She also reiterates the importance of maintaining an emotional bond in a marriage - and the need to avoid becoming too attached to someone. As a result, she encourages couples to avoid romantic involvement until they have worked through their current issues. This may be difficult for some people, especially those whose schedules simply do not allow them the time to regularly attend counseling sessions.

The Book of Marriage also has a number of suggestions for how to maintain healthy communication between spouses. Specifically, it discusses the "red flags" of unhealthy communication, such as overly personal conversations, disrespect, sarcasm, name-calling, and competitiveness. Additionally, the book discusses the many best ways to build open lines of communication with each other - and how this can help to create a more loving and stable relationship. Couples may even find that these types of dialogues lead to long-term growth within their relationships.

One of the last chapters of The Book of Marriage looks at forgiveness. Although many people forgive each other when circumstances call, Brower encourages you to do so more often to let go of past hurts. This chapter discusses how forgiveness allows you to move on with your life and better understand your spouse. Furthermore, it helps you to forgive others - as well. By practicing forgiveness regularly, you can better avoid hurting others in the future, which keeps the fire of love burning strong within your marriage.

Overall, The Book of Marriage is an excellent resource for any couple struggling to make their relationship work. While it may not offer quick fixes or a surefire plan for saving your marriage, it does offer a strong understanding of how to nurture a healthy marriage by remembering that a marriage is an ongoing commitment and should be treated as such. Couples who learn how to forgive each other, set boundaries, and forgive each other's shortcomings may find that they have a deeper, more meaningful relationship than they ever thought possible.